Updated: Feb 12
Quick and easy tips to develop self-accceptance!
What once was a list of my insecurities is now a list of my most favorite things about myself. It took a lot of internal fights and encouragement to convince me that these features are a part of me and not anything I should be ashamed of or want to hide or diminish. Accepting my "flaws" helped my self-esteem and to love myself more.
Developing or practicing self-love must include self-acceptance. When your self-love is rooted in self-acceptance, you value your weaknesses as much as your strengths, feel less obliged to explain away your shortcomings, and you center your self-love around goals and values instead of something that can be displaced like appearance or status.
Read on for the importance of self-acceptance and quick and easy tips to improve or increase your acceptance of yourself!
Why Is Self-Acceptance Important?
Self-acceptance is important because it allows you to show up for yourself when so many things and people are against you.
Self-Acceptance Breeds Authenticity
When we can accept ourselves, we are able to embrace every part of ourselves unconditionally. Self-acceptance does not require us to be happy with our flaws, but accept and love ourselves in spite of our flaws. This allows us to embrace who we truly are, regardless of our title, body shape, hair texture, or other physical attributes.
Self-Acceptance Reduces Negative Self-Criticism
Feeling like you aren't good enough isn't uncommon to most women. It is hard not to consistently compare ourselves to others or some ideal version we have of ourselves.
Self-acceptance helps reduce this struggle and combat self-criticism.
Accepting yourself means less negative self-criticism and helps us to be constructive in our criticism to ourselves. We can begin to target changeable behaviors like limiting screen time or practicing better self-care habits.
Self-Acceptance Improves Emotional Well-Being
Self-acceptance is important to your emotional well-being. Self-acceptance allows independent thinking that does not rely on anybody else's opinion, making you happier and less stressed.
Also, accepting yourself will allow you to stop being in constant struggle with yourself and combat criticism and pressure to be perfect or a different version of yourself, increasing your self-esteem and confidence.
How Can I Improve My Self-Acceptance?
Now that you have know more about the importance of self-acceptance read on to see how you can improve or increase your self-acceptance.
Make peace with your imperfections: Your flaws are part of your story. Accept your flaws as beautiful (or unique) elements of your personal story and past. To help you get started, check out Bustle's 7 Ways Ways To Accept and Celebrate Your Flaws.
Learn your personality type: Learn how your personality type can influence the different areas of your life and how you can grow into your best self by taking a personality test. Recently, I took NERIS personality test and was pleasantly surprised by the accuracy and insight it provided. The 12-minute personality test will provides its best depiction of you according to your mind (how you interact with your environment), energy (where you direct your mental energy), nature ( how you make decisions and cope with emotions.), tactics (your approach to work, planning and decision-making), and identity (how confident you are in our abilities and decisions).
Set goals to build your self-esteem: When setting goals or takings step for improvement, try to make sure they are grounded in your personal values and maintaining a healthy self-esteem. For example, you can set a goal to be more optimistic or expressing your needs to a partner more consistently. Setting goals based on who you are and how you perceive yourself will naturally increase your self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-acceptance.
Set goals that work for you: Keeping personal goals reasonable and within a certain boundary is vital to self-acceptance. Can you actually commit to working out five times a week or completing a journal entry before going to work every day? If your answer is not a definitive "Yes" your goal needs to be adjusted to be more aligned with your capacity and bandwidth. Setting goals that work for you will force you to have a realistic view of yourself and to get rid of others expectations.
Stay focused on becoming a better version of yourself: Try not to succumb to comparing yourself to others. Ask yourself, is comparing yourself to others helping you achieve your goals or causing negative emotions? Focus on yourself- you are your biggest competition.
How are you using self-acceptance to support your self-love journey?