Strong self-worth performs differently - here's how
Over the last few months, I have had several conversations around why I leave a job, why I am single, and why I cut off a friendship. While each of these came to an end for unique and different circumstances, each reason ultimately was knowing my self-worth.
I no longer allowed my friend to disrespect my boundaries because I recognized my self-worth.
I left a relationship because my partner did not reciprocate my actions.
I resigned from my company because my contributions were not valued, and my boss biasedly challenged my intelligence.
These are all examples of situations I would have stayed in when I was younger, had less self-worth, and consistently questioned what I deserved.
Now at 30, with therapy, personal evolution, and wisdom from perspective, I would not compromise my self-worth to stay in these situations. Self-worth is intimately tied to our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors and how we view our worthiness and value as human beings. Read on for a list of six things I, and people with a strong self-worth do differently.
Leave Unhealthy Situations
People with strong self-worth do not stay in unhealthy circumstances - relationships, friendships, jobs, etc. When people with strong self-worth do not feel respected, appreciated, and valued, they leave. They can quickly see when a circumstance is damaging and remove themselves immediately.
Oftentimes people with low self-worth put up with poor treatment because they believe that that is what they deserve. However, when you learn to value yourself, you will weed out people and circumstances that do not truly value you.
Know your self-worth, and do not be afraid to leave when something no longer serves you or upholds your values.
Do Not Settle For Less Than You Deserve
Having strong self-worth helps you be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve.
Deserve, by definition, is to be worthy of, qualified for, or have a claim to - this means accepting less than what you deserve is directly tied to your self-worth.
Do not settle for anything less than you deserve.
Do Not Let Past Mistakes Define Them
No matter what you have done in the past, you are worthy of love, happiness, and success. Those with high self-worth are aware of their mistakes, but do not let them degrade or dictate their future expectations.
Whether you settled in a relationship or messed up on a big client presentation, do not allow your mistakes to make you feel like you do not deserve more or something better. Do not allow your past mistakes to make you doubt yourself. Please take responsibility for your actions, learn from them, and grow from them. Define yourself by the best of what you are and conquer.
Clear About Boundaries And Their Values
Deciding and maintaining your boundaries and values are a direct result of healthy self-worth. These two things help prevent people from taking advantage of you.
If you are struggling with your self-worth, try setting set boundaries and values across your personal and professional life to take control of your standards and desires.
Do Not Seek Validation
Seeking reassurance is consistently seeking approval for your ideas, choices, achievements, or opinions from others around you.
Validation is part of life - it can appear in your close circles or even at work. However, it presents as a problem and tied to your self-worth, when self-validation is not enough or valued.
People with high self-worth know what they bring to the table and what they are capable of and do not consistently seek validation from someone or someplace else. They do not second-guess their value or potential.
If you do not have self-worth, validation from others will never be enough. Be aware of when and where you seek validation from external sources. This can be family, close friends, social media, or a partner. When you recognize this, try breaking the cycle by asking yourself first.
Trust Themselves and The Decisions They Make
It can hard to walk away from situations that are damaging, but we feel comfortable in or that we can fix. Trusting that you made the correct decision by leaving (or staying) is important and is another result of high self-worth. Similar to seeking validation, seeking reassurance occurs when you lack confidence in yourself.
How will you plan to incorporate these healthy self-worth habits into your interactions?